The brain’s frontal lobes, which are involved in ADHD, continue to mature until we reach age 35. In practical terms, this means that people with ADHD can expect some lessening of their symptoms over time. Many will not match the emotional maturity of a 21-year-old until their late 30’s. So while most people graduating from college take time to adjust to adult life, people with ADHD need more time, more family support, and more professional help.

Have you read this? It made me wonder how I managed to adult in the minimal capacity I could in my 20s & on – which consisted, tbh, in drinking too much #alcohol (a source of #dopamine & lowered #anxiety).

But I’m thinking more on how to best guide & support my kids (though without some of the punitive ideas like charging rent, the author is a dinosaur from the 60s).

https://www.additudemag.com/grow-up-already-why-it-takes-so-long-to-mature/

Arp
Hi, I’m Arp! I got diagnosed with ADHD at 49, and now I'm trying to figure out what's me, what's masking, and just about everything else. I make comics (when imposter syndrome isn't striking) and write about life as a creative Indian-American. I’m self-taught, self-employed, and self-flagellating.

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you have to love it enough to be bad at it. brian mcdonald
This isn’t #adhd specific but it is a quote that really smacked me upside the head. It made me realize that I didn’t mind sucking at a lot of activities I’ve enjoyed. I welcomed the process of getting better – or not getting better, because sometimes things are just plain fun. And if sucking at it isn’t appealing, then I guess it’s not for me. This has proven pretty damn accurate. The source – #BrianMcDonald – is many things (writer, director, producer) all built around his skill in #storytelling. He’s written some excellent #books on #writing as well – #InvisibleInk is one I highly recommend. My favorite place to glean some #wisdom from him is his #podcast ‘You Are A Storyteller’ (where I heard this #quote). He talks a lot about movies but his explanations for why this or that #story works/doesnt work has helped me write better #stories. #meme ...

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coddiwomple (v.) to travel in a purposeful manner towards a vague destination.
#TIL that there’s a word that describes my whole damn life 😆 Except my ‘purposeful manner’ zigged and zagged a lot. No real destination in mind, just ideas of where I thought I wanted to go – or where I thought I should (🤦🏽‍♂️) be going. Some of this is #adhd related (like half-heartedly doing things I had no interest in) and some is not (school teaches you to not listen to yourself because Other People Know Better). But I would like to correct course and have a destination in mind for once. Also: ‘Coddiwomple’ is an incredible word. #Language can be so much fun! #Vocabulary #TIL #WordOfTheDay

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I can’t count the number of times someone asked me to stop pacing because ‘it made them nervous.’ Has that happened to you?

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I just realized that #Nemo’s performance on the balancing thingies was a physical representation of their thoughts, feelings, & journey. They went from having trouble balancing on them (like societal expectations vs their dysmorphia) to being in control (breaking the code) 🤯🤯🤯 Am I just slow on the uptake? #ESC #Eurovision

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REGULATED means your energy levels match the task. It does not mean 'calm'. By Neurowild
Oof, this one’s got me thinking. #ADHD #Neurodiverse #Neurowild

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brian eno creativity
We need more focus on ‘collective intelligence’ vs individual genius. Encouragement of collaboration & cross-pollination. Being around other creatives, in varied disciplines, is meaningful for the growth of one’s own #creativity. I recognize now that I lacked creative peers for most of my life so I was always flying solo, not getting ideas from others nor getting any useful feedback. My friends would sit around and watch movies while I preferred wandering the Metropolitan Museum of Art and seeing what caught my eye. #BrianEno #POSSE Photo credit

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3 thoughts on “Have you read this? It made me wonder …”

  1. @arpcomics “I’d go out and buy an expensive car and make the first payment, but that was it. My Dad would always have to pay the rest.” That tells me all I need to know about Betsy (and it has nothing to do with her having ADHD).

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  2. @NorthByNorthWeston Good point. That was a bit much and I agree it’s not adhd. ADHD would be paying the bills late and ending up with fees & fines.I’ve also never bought an expensive car because my adhd means I can’t just work at a job, play the social game, get promoted/find a better job, et al.

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